Wish you had known then what you know now? Want to turn back the hands of time and undo mistakes you've made? Wondering why you did such and such when you should have known better?
Sure, these are all questions we ask and beat ourselves up about. But what's the use of all the would've, could've, should've's when the outcome will still remain the same after all the anxiety? All the complaining in the world won't change the fact that we messed up and wish we could take something back; but all that resorts from constant regret and worry is further stress without a resolution for the complaint.
Rather than wilting away from negative thinking, change your attitude and seek the help you need to progress in life. Whether you seek the comfort of loved ones, schedule an appointment to see a counselor, or relax into a favorite hobby, channel your negative energy into a positive to lighten your burdens.
My suggestion - start early.
If you are a parent, start teaching your children, while they are young, how to cope with issues surrounding regret. Children are like sponges, as they absorb everything so quickly and retain information so well.
And if you are the adult trying to cope, don't give up because it's slightly more difficult for you to understand these concepts. Keep patient and soon you too will be able to see that harboring constant stress and regret doesn't do anything good for you. If you abide by these simple guidelines, you will be well on your way to leading a less stress filled life.
So, here's to equipping our lives with positive reinforcement and continual understanding of the irreversible.
